I read your article today in HuffPost and related so much I had to drop you a note. I’m at the 8 month mark. Yes people can be so heartless and cold. They truly don’t understand until they’ve felt it (even then some don’t get it). After attending a grief share class for 13 wks it’s a little easier for me to talk- as I’ve been a total recluse for 8 mos. I want you to know God is with you, is close to the brokenhearted and will comfort you as you grieve. With great love there’s great loss. Give yourself grace daily- hourly. May God bless you. Take good care.
Saw an article about you and your journey on Yahoo and wanted to know more about you. You have been through the wringer as they say. I’m not religious but I do believe the saying that God will not give you more than you can handle. If thats true you must have the soul of a warrior. Peace be with you.
Grief is a messy and most people have no idea how to handle someone else's grief, sadly. If they have lost someone, we are supposed to be on their schedule of when they took a step forward.
Then you have the people who have no idea what to say and they blurt out the most insensitive comment while trying to be sensitive. My real-life example: I recall a moment when a waitress-in-training asked me why I looked so down, I told her my wife passed a few months ago and this was the first time I went out to eat since then. She told me she gets it; she was really sad when her dog died. The training waitress looked like she was about to rip the trainee in half, I think I said something like "I'm sorry for your loss".
These days (3 years later), I can say her name and talk about memories we shared. I see it weirds some people out, but I do not care. It is how I grieve, how I remember, how I honor, and how I keep her memory alive.
From one internet stranger to another, I'm sorry to see you are going through this.
Rosi, you have my deepest sympathies. My wife of 21 years died 16 Feb 2025 while in Raja Ampat Indonesia while we were on vacation. Like your husband she wanted to be cremated. I spread her ashes in Bali and still have some other locations to go. I understand everything you went through getting back to the US, I had the exactly same issues. Everyday, deep breaths. Everyday looking toward the future. It is hard, but you are not alone. John
This post has my stomach crunching and I need deep breaths. Deep breath. Really excellent. (Except, in addition to sushi and fresh sheets, I would celebrate no LA traffic, because that seems almost to be a miracle sent from your loved ones.)
I read your article today in HuffPost and related so much I had to drop you a note. I’m at the 8 month mark. Yes people can be so heartless and cold. They truly don’t understand until they’ve felt it (even then some don’t get it). After attending a grief share class for 13 wks it’s a little easier for me to talk- as I’ve been a total recluse for 8 mos. I want you to know God is with you, is close to the brokenhearted and will comfort you as you grieve. With great love there’s great loss. Give yourself grace daily- hourly. May God bless you. Take good care.
Saw an article about you and your journey on Yahoo and wanted to know more about you. You have been through the wringer as they say. I’m not religious but I do believe the saying that God will not give you more than you can handle. If thats true you must have the soul of a warrior. Peace be with you.
Grief is a messy and most people have no idea how to handle someone else's grief, sadly. If they have lost someone, we are supposed to be on their schedule of when they took a step forward.
Then you have the people who have no idea what to say and they blurt out the most insensitive comment while trying to be sensitive. My real-life example: I recall a moment when a waitress-in-training asked me why I looked so down, I told her my wife passed a few months ago and this was the first time I went out to eat since then. She told me she gets it; she was really sad when her dog died. The training waitress looked like she was about to rip the trainee in half, I think I said something like "I'm sorry for your loss".
These days (3 years later), I can say her name and talk about memories we shared. I see it weirds some people out, but I do not care. It is how I grieve, how I remember, how I honor, and how I keep her memory alive.
From one internet stranger to another, I'm sorry to see you are going through this.
Rosi, you have my deepest sympathies. My wife of 21 years died 16 Feb 2025 while in Raja Ampat Indonesia while we were on vacation. Like your husband she wanted to be cremated. I spread her ashes in Bali and still have some other locations to go. I understand everything you went through getting back to the US, I had the exactly same issues. Everyday, deep breaths. Everyday looking toward the future. It is hard, but you are not alone. John
This post has my stomach crunching and I need deep breaths. Deep breath. Really excellent. (Except, in addition to sushi and fresh sheets, I would celebrate no LA traffic, because that seems almost to be a miracle sent from your loved ones.)
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